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The first step to change is awareness. In our own individual development, becoming aware of our flaws is often a harsh reality, but it is also the catalyst for real, long-lasting change and improvement. Often, it takes hitting rock bottom before we can really see our circumstance for what it is, and be inspired to rise above it.

It seems our society is hitting an all new rock-bottom. School shootings are nearly a monthly headline, and has become a tragedy that has desensitized us, to the point where many have begun scrolling right past it on our feed. The trauma has been normalized. The conversation of how to stop this has become a series of notions, controversies, and arguments. We are divided more than ever, and while we keep pondering the various solutions. It is time for us to wake up and look at the facts.

This post has one purpose: to display a snapshot of the statistics and data.

Let’s start with drop-out rate. 

According to, between 2000 and 2016, the male status dropout rate declined to 7.1 percent, and the female status dropout rate declined to 5.1 percent. However, you can see how from 2016, the dropout rate was 2.0 percentage points higher for male youth than for female youth.

In every single state, females graduate more than males do.

Female student graduate rates are consistently higher than males in every state. The greatest discrepancies are in the District of Columbia and Mississippi where the female graduation rates are 25% and 17% higher than the male rate, respectively. –; data via U.S. Department of Education, National Center for Education Statistics


A snapshot of a trend nationwide, comes from the Conneticut State Department of Education: Below shows the rate of school discipline of suspension and expulsions based on gender, further sorted by race.

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Finally, here is a glimpse at the arrest rates for males vs females. For every area of crime, male rates are over doubled.

In 2016, males at over approximately 3500 arrests per 100,000 people ages 10 – 17, while females had approximately 1500.

The below data comes from the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention:

Males ages 15 to 19 are approximately three times more likely than females to die from suicide, (13 and 4 per 100,000, respectively, in 2014), and six times more likely to die from homicide (11 and 2 per 100,000, respectively, in 2014). Males of this age are also eight times more likely to die from firearm-related incidents of any kind: in 2014, 17 per 100,000 males died by firearms, compared with 2 per 100,000 females.  –

Data from 2015 according to : 
  • 10.3% of male students and 5.0% of female students reported being in a physical fight on school property in the 12 months
  • 22.6% reported being in a physical fight in the 12 months; the prevalence was higher among males (28.4%) than females (16.5%).2
  • 16.2% reported carrying a weapon (gun, knife or club) on one or more days in the 30 days; the prevalence was higher among males (24.3%) than females (7.5%)
  • 5.3% reported carrying a gun on one or more days in the 30 days; the prevalence was higher among males (8.7%) than females (1.6%)


To be clear – this post is not an attack on men. In fact, it is quite the opposite. We must create a safer world for our males to thrive. By looking at the facts, we have a solid foundation and starting point to begin implementing techniques and solutions to drastically change these numbers.

What will these numbers look like for 2018? 2020?

Will they increase, or decrease? The answer is really up to us as a society. It is apparent that our boys are struggling. The actions we take today and tomorrow, will change the shape of these graphs.

We as a society have proven we can do this. All of the data shows dramatic growth for females in the last two decades. The “Girl Power” movement worked! We are capable of making a difference.

The first step is awareness. Let’s shed light on these facts and implement real change in our daily lives and as a community.

Thank you for visiting my site. Let’s connect. I’d love to hear your story. Want more? Check out my latest book. Busting the Boys Will Be Boys Myth: A Guide to Raising Conscious and Confident Men in Today’s World

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